So you think you are an experienced flirter? Well I thought I was too, that was until I tried to put my flirting experience into action online.

I quickly discovered that cyber flirting is a totally different ball game (so to speak!) than flirting in person.

Gone were the eye contact and body language that I would generally employ to attract the opposite sex. Gone was the need for my favorite alluring fragrance, my well-poised walk and my confident smile.

All I had to work with now was my big vocabulary, my vivid imagination and my Logitech keyboard!

I have to admit that at first I found being without my usual flirting armory a little disconcerting. Nevertheless, I took a deep breath and soldiered on.

The first step, of course, was deciding on a catchy user name, something the guys would not only remember but would also find fun and intriguing.

Next I completed my profile. I found being honest about my personal details was the only way to go, as I suspected I would be quickly caught out if I told any 'little white lies'. I also made sure I was clear about the options I selected in terms of what kind of relationship I was looking for. I didn't want anyone getting the wrong impression.

Now it was time to place my ad. I had read on a lot of sites where placing the right type of ad can really help in narrowing down the kind of responses you get. So I started by making a list of points about myself.

I didn't see any real need to go into too much detail about my physical attributes (I intended to upload a photo of myself later, and anyway, I wanted to attract the kind of guy who's more interested in what I have to say than what's under my clothes). Instead I focussed on the things I enjoyed doing in life and what I wanted out of a relationship.

But, as the old saying goes, it takes two to tango. So I thought it might be wise to include something in there about the sort of person I wanted to meet. Some people will specify that they'd rather a non-smoker and so on, but this wasn't such an issue for me. I simply put in my ad that I preferred guys who are spontaneous, have a good sense of humor, and didn't view having sex with a woman as some kind of holy grail (if all they want is a conquest, they can go climb Everest!)

Once I'd done all this, I checked what I'd written for spelling and punctuation because I certainly didn't want to come across as some ditzy bimbo, then I hit the submit button.

By now I was really warming to the idea of this cyber flirting thing…

Next: Uploading your photo, replying to ads.

 

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